Monday, June 8, 2009

Missing Rani Mukherjee


I miss Rani Mukherjee. I wonder where she is!! I haven't heard her name for several months now.
Has she quit acting??

I don't think any of the new actresses have talent enough to nudge her from her undisputed position as the Queen of Bollywood.

If anyone has the latest on her, do let me know!

The Magic of ToDo

ToDo lists are an amazing invention!

I have been relying on them for years - so I should know. When I am overwhelmed with numerous miscellaneous tasks, at a risk of forgetting some of them, the first thing I do is get hold of a post-it note, list them out, add to them whenever I remember a new task, and strike each off whenever it gets done. Sometimes it feels good to reduce the enormity of chores to a few words in a paper and it is liberating when each one is removed off the list and the list reduces to zero (which is theoretical and optimistic because by that time ten new items would have been added).

Many a time I have observed that the best managers of time are the ones who maintain their to-do list well. Each one has his own method of managing his tasks - not necessarily using post-it notes. Some flag their emails (even set reminder alarms on them) so that they know which items need to be followed up, and when. Some paste Turbo notes on their computer desktops(Turbo notes also can have alarms).

I have also known people who never keep track of their pending tasks (at work or home) and always complain that they do not have enough time. They always need someone else to nudge them to do their work, which is quite irritating. I may be wrong, but I think listing out the tasks and prioritizing them would help a great deal, almost "half the job done", but convincing these people about the efficiency of todo lists and making them follow it is a herculean task in itself!

In addition to listing out tasks, even the smallest ones, and prioritizing them, we need to plan how much time to spend on each. If it doesn't finish by then, move on to the next. Otherwise, an entire day would be wasted by attending to one job, which would not get completed, and the remaining ten would get postponed to the next day.

All this would sound wonderful theory for those who haven't tried it.
I have, and I know it works.
If you like to be convinced professionally, check out this site.

Sunday, June 7, 2009

The Children Of Men

PD James has been writing books for about 50 years now. But I first heard of her a few months back (I read a review about an Adam Dalgliesh story). The comments I read about the author were quite encouraging, so in my subsequent visit to Landmark, Forum, I asked for The Children Of Men. (They also recommended to me her latest - The Private Patient which I am yet to put my hands on.)

The Children of Men was a very interesting read - that is an understatement. It is definitely not a light read, you cannot cruise through the pages at one go. You need to read each sentence, hover over it, and appreciate the thought and research that has gone into the entire work. It is thought-provoking, it is scary (not as in "horror" scary but as in "a world without a future" scary). The truth is that such a future-without-a-future is not impossible. It could be likely, though (if it ever happens), it would take some time.

I understand that a movie has been made on this story, but I am wary of movies made from books as they steer us away from the movie we have directed in our mind during the reading, starring the characters our mind has created using the raw material available to us from our past and present.

My rating of the book: Very Good.


Friday, June 5, 2009

A Month Later

It's been exactly a month and a week.

On Apr 30th, I was afraid that I would greet June with boredom, depression and a set of other negative emotions.

However, May had been a busy month. It seemed, I saw my house for the first time in years - all the curtains and the sheets and the settee covers that needed washing, the floors that needed scrubbing, the furniture that needed dusting, the walls and ceiling that needed de-webbing, all despite my handing money to the maid every month.
I attended to every detail. There was no hurry. I made a list of tasks to do and ticked them off one by one.
Then the visitors and the school vacations took away the rest of my time.
All these kept me busy throughout the month.

Now June has arrived. And I gear myself to implement my plans.
I have a long way to travel.
The path is unknown.
And I travel alone.
I need courage, health, support, and a great deal of patience.

All that happens, happens for the best.
I hope.

"Care" givers

A day before her grandmother passed away, my friend mailed to me, Ammachy was quite healthy and capable of looking after herself... a couple of months ago, since she led a lonely life and away from her children, a caregiver was arranged to assist her. Then began her decline.
Now she is in hospital, totally unwell, and the doctors have requested to inform all her relatives, that her days are running out.

She went on to describe the difficulties her Grandma had to endure at the hands of the so-called 'care' giver, who they suspect, refused to give her food, terrorized the poor hapless Ammachy and tormented her. It was a very depressing story. The next morning, I got an SMS from her that Ammachy has left this world.

This is not an isolated incident. I hear similar stories from many sources. Can one always blame the children for not looking after the parents and leaving them to the mercy of a woman who does not give a damn about them? Juggling between careers and homes and parents who are not ready to relocate, they may be forced to make decisions.

And the caregiver woman? Shouldn't she be doing a minimum justice to the money she gets? A little kindness, if not sincerity, to the people in their care?

It makes me quite frightened to think about the possibility of my ever leaving my parents with such a caregiver, or ever finding myself at the mercy of one... God Forbid!

Thursday, June 4, 2009

Abhishek still missing

This is very distressing news.

6-year-old Abhishek was washed away following the rains on Sunday and even his body is not found. I can't imagine what his family must be going through.

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Monsoon - is it or is it not?

The Indian Meteorological Department is a very trustworthy source. People turn to their little window at the corner of the Times Of India to know what the Met Department has to say. Will it rain, shine or snow?

In my grandfather's time, the voice of the Met Dep on the radio was a constant source of entertainment. It was said that they forecast things like, "it may or may not rain today". Things are quite different today. If Met Dep announces "rainfall for the next three days", fear not - there will not be a single drop from the sky, nor would there be any sign of a solitary cloud.

A week or ten days ago, monsoon was sighted over parts of Kerala. It lashed the state for a couple of days. Unlike Bangalore, Kerala always maintains an average temperature throughout the year. The fall of mercury during rain is compensated an hour so later and the temp bounces back to 30deg C or thereabouts. Last week, monsoon hit Bangalore. For three days, the important-looking rains with a don't-disturb-we're-busy attitude, accompanied by thunder and lightning, did their expected duty, true to their name.
"Yes, we told you so", said the Met Dep. "Expect a month of torrents."
After the 3rd day, monsoons vanished without a trace.

The beauty of monsoon is when the dark clouds are done with pouring. A glimpse into last year's Monsoon Sky here. The tragedy lies in the power failures every time the wind blows or thunder rolls, the flooded roads, and the blocked drains.

When it rained in March, we called it summer rains. In April, we said those are the remnants of the summer rains, split over by a few weeks. In May, we chose not to name them. Finally in the last week of May, we called them Monsoons.

"Monsoon?" says Met Dep. "Yes it is still around. Just gone visiting."

Monday, June 1, 2009

Of Loneliness and Solitude

I read somewhere that...
There is a very thin line between loneliness and solitude.
Between being alone and being lonely.

But the difference in what they mean is as huge as an ocean.
As thick as a jungle.

As only one who experienced both would know.